Some Trauma and Relationship

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This world is as it is because of trauma, it has been built by trauma, being conditioned to it does not make it less so. Trauma more than anything has built this world. There are constant wars and violent deaths, rape, a lot of cheating, robbing, stealing, denial all justified done on this planet affecting everybody, it is a violent physically and emotionally harsh planet, it is all about food and shelter, the rest is superficial, the religion, race, etcetera, superficial stuff, does it have to be for humans?

The Khumalo name for this planet is umHlaba, translated literally, in a rare instance in linguistics, the literal translation is the only one that makes sense, umHlaba means the place of piercing. Let us not deny reality about what is happening at this moment, this planet is about being constantly pierced, being constantly hurt, constantly pricked by a blade usually penetrating in one way or another either emotionally , psychologically, many times than necessary so we say often physically the end result being death, the taking of one’s life, ones ultimate property on this planet.

Is the name umHlaba, the place of constant variations of trauma apt for this planet? What we do know is that everything is in a relationship and that all relationships lead to a loss of freedom due to the energy needed to maintain them, implying location and time. To have won something or lost something, to have made a gain or a loss in the usual manner of a loss means one was in a relationship.

The most important thing one will leave behind is a child, the child carries the code, the genetic code. The child ensures variation in the human genome. Thus, the child not only the continuity of the genes of the parents, but ensures variety in the human genome, the greater the variety the greater the randomness at play. A society that respects knowledge must understand this alongside the reality that knowledge is part of the random process as all relationships, this must be reconciled in the mind with greater variety brings greater randomness.

The child being the most important thing they will leave behind, one will make sure that child has the best food, shelter, clothing as well as knowledge for them to best survive. Some knowledge coming from the parent in the relationship, but with food, shelter and clothing being provided up to a certain age depending on the relationships the parents are involved with. As they get older and venture outside the child gets knowledge through their own experience, but return for food, shelter, and clothing at the so-called nest, after gathering knowledge if done properly will serve them in their life outside the “nest”.

The reasons why the child is important have been explained, the continuity of the genes and the added variety into the human genome. The second part has been misunderstood leading to the name of this planet. The first part is in many ways determined by the parents, the continuity of the genes. Without the essentials the child will not make it.

Continuity of the genes makes one’s child a priority over all other children. Getting together they say was meant for our protection against wild animals and those who want our little piece of territory. If we appreciate the reality that the child is also a gift to the group, we would have respected the reality that the child also adds variety to the society’s genome pool allowing society to take greater advantages of randomness. This has not been understood.

The group that was created to protect itself ended up competing with itself for position and power, did it really happen this way? Who knows, but today there is hierarchy in society and a competition for positions within the group. Position meaning one’s child gets access to better survival than another’s child. Position meaning one thinks it is somehow okay to make the laws favor them in getting food, shelter and clothing meaning their children have first access to the best that society can provide.

It becomes a competition for one’s child completely ignoring that the children of others are adding variety and a chance for society to take advantage of randomness. Often these rules and positions are at the point of death. Only a knight or a Samurai could walk around with a sword, keeping their right to having food, shelter, clothing before anybody below them. This rule obviously enforced by arms that nobody else can have. Their children are taught that it is by brute force that they have first claim to food, shelter, and clothing in the society, to accomplish this they must be the only ones armed. They recognize that the others are capable that is why they ensure they are disarmed.

What is society about, it is about following the rules and culture of the society at the point at best of being ostracized at worst having your life taken away from you. If those are the rules the majority on earth want, then those will be the rules that are followed, or one will perish. The primary factor of survival is knowing your place, or you will be punished, the threat of trauma, that is the same as trauma in many degrees. |This conditions one to accept situations where randomness is being downplayed to benefit others.

The government is the ultimate authority in any society. You disobey them at the point of punishment that is backed by organized violence. If a child will have any chance of survival in society, they must learn to understand authority. Ultimately to disobey authority is death. That is one of the primary reasons’ parents are there, to show the cost of disobeying authority.

Parents are alive, they are not dead, or one will be called an orphan. They are the ones to teach a child the first lessons of authority and the cost of crossing that authority. If a child does not listen, they are punished. This teaches them that there are consequences for not listening. This is the order that is desired here for our survival, nobody can be truly correct, but that is the reasoning. The means of punishment change with the times, but basically, it’s punishment for not following directions.

The child’s first lesson of punishment best come from the parents. It is a warning that if you do not take the direction of authority there are consequences. A child’s first introduction to trauma. But like play fighting, all fights are play fights until you are an adult, and all trauma is not meant to be as destructive as when you are an adult. As an adult to cross authority can be death, if as a child it is death, then the parents have failed to secure their genes.

That it is expected, an expectation is not a certainty, it is expected that parents want their children to survive, that is why the introductions to trauma, to punishment, to be pierced, as some call this planet the place of constant piercing is from the parents, show the child to be aware of authority.

As an adult the system is far rougher the parents who provide food, shelter, and clothing willingly, respecting authority and taking direction means food, shelter, and clothing. Taking food, shelter and clothing is trauma, those are the basics of surviving, the essential is food.

Not only are the first lessons about trauma from the parent as a warning about authority. When a parent punishes a child the child is told why they shouldn’t do it, but more importantly the parent remains with the child guiding them, giving them treats, making sure they do their homework, things that will help them later on in life. It is about the survival of the child. The survival of the genes of those parents.

The child then is passed on to some community centre to dump the children, we have called this place school, many other animals in nature have the same concept not just humans, a place where those not ready hang around and learn to be ready. Penguins are a good example out of many, penguins chosen randomly out of numerous examples at one’s discretion.

At school, the school system has a set of rules, and the punishment is seen as how seriously the school system views breaking that rule. The school system is like society for a child, they must now get through life with others constantly around them. Other children being given authority over other children formally. Children being rewarded, with the parent your reward is being their child, that ice cream for a 6-year-old is because it is a child of those parents that bought it. That certificate of merit in a formal school setting is showing that this child met such and such a criteria over other children and gets a reward, a game that is played throughout life.

When other children are given authority over others it means the system has chosen another child to be an instigator of trauma by reporting other children. These children would be the seniors, as seen by those running that education system as best to lead society in the future and enter adulthood with good recommendations, having being picked as a child to discipline other children, but still the school world is small and is merely training for the world where it is understood that it is your genes that are a priority over others at all costs and the result of this view point.

In the school’s system the teachers can only do so much. Punish so much, the amount of trauma they can cause on a child as a deterrent to behaviour that is deemed unacceptable. The school system at different stages will alert the parents and defer the problem back to the parents, for it is the parents who have the most desire for the child to make it to adulthood with the best tools available, when they can leave the care of the parents, the school is saying the child needs to learn now the rules that is why we are calling you. Concerned parents will take the message seriously given the location and the relationships of society in that location, the parents are participating in those relationships viewed good or bad does not matter, those are the relationships of that location.

That the school is concerned and have failed in their techniques of trauma that they can use outlined to them by the government. The government being the ultimate authority, understands what kind of full citizens they need, determine the amount of trauma a school can use to show a child what the government desires ultimately for a functioning society according to how government is organized. The final decision is left to the parents, will your genes understand the rules of the game, or will they be ultimately destroyed. The school system with directions from the ruling authority over those schools rules that at such and such a stage, the parents must be warned, the child is breaking the rules of survival in society, not that the child is failing, that happens once in a while, it is the child is breaking the rules of the order of society, the punishment ultimately could be death as an adult. The parents if they care must ensure the survival of their gene, the school will not be bothered after a certain limit.

It is here at school where the child will note differences in how other children are treated by authority that is not their parents. This is more a microcosm of the society they are in than being at home with their parents. The teacher will be conveying to the child the structures of society depending on how they teach the children and how they use the threat of trauma, punishment for not following the rules as need be. The child might see that suspicions are not the same, certain type of children might be suspected more than others; the child can pick this up from the teacher. The child of the mayor will be treated differently than the child of the janitor, this being one reason from discretion but there are numerous examples anybody can think of that is what the mind is there for, what is important is similarities in relationships can be picked up.

If the child of the mayor is treated different, it is for the same reason as why in heavily theocratic locations, the child of the priest will be treated differently from the others. Those others will be treated differently than the child of somebody who does not belong to that religion, all for the same reasons in relationships, who has first right to food in that society. A society has decided one way to distribute food, shelter, and clothing.

It is traumatic for a child who will find themselves the one to be suspected, easiest to punish, the easiest to inflict trauma on by the formal system, that is why the behaviour is there, to create and enforce expectations. A warning to change and get treated better, note it has nothing to do with any character of the child, the character is being built. Trauma, the mayor’s child see’s they can escape trauma easier than others, others know to avoid trauma they must change somethings that are impossible to change. A child is being told by society how difficult it will be for them to get bread in formal society, this they will understand just before becoming full adults, it is either they accept or they don’t, but they understand the trauma, the constant piercings that will happen.

Trauma is not just a physical phenomenon. It is used to cause change, there will be changes in the mind, the relationships of information, in this case behavioural aspects that are controlled in the mind. That is the reason for inflicting physical pain, ultimately taking a life. But is also an emotional aspect designed to cause change in a child’s mind. This will be done with other children; one will learn this in the playground. Little pricks here and there, all part of umHlaba, conditioning the mind, this way is painful, this way is less painful, signals always been sent. The child will become familiar with the power of the mob in school, away from the parents and return to the parents away from the mob.

The use of constant pricks and stabs is the way of society forcing a child into a certain space. These constant pricks and stabs are about survival, and the basics of survival is food, shelter and clothing. These constant pricks and stabs are there to remind the child of the relationships in that location. Who is stabbing, who is being stabbed constantly or the name of this planet would not be Trauma? One’s character is forged by relationships in society, relationships in their location. Mind you there is the internet, television, books, tools that inform, these all affect the individuals character, how many have really been to Antarctica in real life, but it is part of the television generations location through the television, now through the internet.

There is enough trauma inflicted on a child, or the threat of trauma by the time a child becomes an adult, that is how model citizens are created. At the core is access to food, shelter, and clothing, and all these depend on knowledge. The most important thing is one’s own child, forgetting the genetic value of each child. The child is important to the parents genetically because it is their genes surviving. But we forget that everything is random, and we where supposed to be in a society to protect each other, what other reason is there?

If we where meant to protect each other, the second reality of what a child means must be taken into account. The child is a unique genetic structure adding diversity to the society’s genetic makeup. Though all humans, we have different genetic maybe at the smallest levels, this adds to the variety of the genetic base of the society.

To appreciate this genetic difference is to appreciate randomness, only then is it truly worth being in a society. That is now protecting each other and the offspring. By accepting that the child is a unique genetic gift to the society, and to accommodate the uniqueness of each child randomness must be the principle of society, accepting randomness means accepting now who can do what in society and this can only be done by culturally removing trauma associated with being oneself, using one’s talent outside cultural norms because of cultural fears that are instilled merely to decide who gets food, shelter and clothing first. The cultural norm should be it is a random process.

Accepting that a child is not just a gift to the parents but society as well. Being a gift to society will be expected to use their potential to the fullest and the only way to allow this is allowing choice in what knowledge a child wants to use to get food, shelter and clothing with no cultural or rules of society written or unwritten to hold them back for the child of another member of society, who already has an advantage and does not also need cultural protection, if they are not good enough culture must not protect them, it is a random process. One’s child should not just accept trauma just because they are better able to contribute in some area somebody but culturally can’t be seen to contribute. That is teaching other children to rob other children and other children must accept it.

The child learns vast hypocrisy in the school system. Hypocrisy itself is mental trauma, though not physical it is very harmful, as the child is taught great philosophers who talk of things like the golden rule, love one another, in science they talk of everything is random but here some use trauma’s to keep others in place. Then when they grow, they learn that small lies can save a life because of the hypocrisy of everything. The child begins to categorize human action, when is it okay to be a hypocrite.

Accepting all the meanings of the child’s genes would make a world respectful of the reality that everything is in a relationship and all relationships are random. Or is it really one society, or societies exploiting other societies and making sure those others have secondary access to food, clothing and shelter.

I thought about discussing Trauma in such a manner after I read a tweet from Terri Lomax, a tweet on rape, @TerriLomax on twitter. Now you know, you can reference my thoughts better, I read somebodies tweet that’s what gave me the idea for how to talk about relationships in reality, good thing I wrote it down, not good to forget such things.

Bhekuzulu Khumalo

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All About Relationships and Education

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Not to teach a student early on in life that everything is a relationship and the main principles behind this concept would be folly. Why would the concept of relationships be so important, the answer is simple, because everything is in a relationship. Nothing in existence is truly free in that it is in a relationship.

The first law of information, the first law of everything is that everything is in a relationship resulting in a loss of freedom due to the energy needed to maintain such relationships. What is being discussed is education, it would then be best to look at relationships from the viewpoint of disciplines of knowledge.

Everything is information, why don’t we say everything is energy. Energy is very broad word and no matter how one tries it remains broad. Being broad it has enough concepts to deal with without lumping everything on top of it. Information is more precise a terminology in every essence, scientifically and philosophically and linguistically. Information is around what is collecting that information, in this case around the human. Everything is information because it informs you what it is. Everything that can inform one of what it is, it is all made up of the same stuff and has the same basic characteristics, one of those being that everything is in a relationship and those relationships lead to a loss of freedom due to the energy needed to maintain those relationships.

It is scientifically correct to say relationships lead to a loss of freedom due to the energy needed to maintain them. There is an example of the broad use of the term energy. Then one must look at the type and within type quality of that energy.

A key characteristic of information is that everything is discrete as it is discrete, all information can be used to compute. Counting 2 stars and adding another 2 stars will lead to 4 stars. Adding 2 humans to 2 humans will lead to 4 humans adding 2 electrons to 2 electrons will lead to 4 electrons. Just as quantum particles have been tamed to do our calculations in our modern electronic gadgets, a monstrous thing of enormous power in our definitions of power could also do the same with humans. Rows upon rows and columns upon columns of human beings acting upon the will of this monstrous evil for them to watch their versions of cartoons.

If everything is in a relationship the categorization of information is by similarities of relationships. Each discipline in the educational curricula, more importantly in life is a categorization of education. This is a biology class, this is a geography class, this is a music class, all these are classifications of disciplines of education, as a result of the classification of knowledge. This classification of knowledge is all about similarities in relationships of information, similarities in the way information loses its freedom due to relationships needing energy to maintain them.

What can be picked up when we understand the categorization process, it is self categorization and humans learn to see the similarities and thus anywhere on this earth a human understands this  is a rock, this is a bird categorized according to similarities in relationships and loss of freedom. Due to relationships we know something is what we have termed a bird because the information is constrained due to relationships into being a rock. This is the same with a bird.

It must never be forgotten that the bird and the rock are made up of the same stuff. This information is constrained because it is in a relationship. Another reality of information reveals itself that we had not considered, just as it is reality that all information is discrete, it is random, it can compute, we can add that because all information, everything is in a relationship and relationships take energy to maintain resulting in a loss of freedom all information is constrained. All patterns of information are due to this reality that everything is constrained, that is a relationship.  

When something is categorized, we are classifying by constraints on information in a thought pattern that would not be wrong. Since the bird and the rock are made up of the same stuff. A discipline studying birds is studying the same stuff as one who studies rocks, but merely different relationships and constraints of that same stuff. All disciplines are merely studying different manifestations of the same stuff, different relationships of the same stuff.

The disciplines, the category of knowledge dealing with Relationships around particles has been named quantum mechanics. The category of relationships that deal with the distribution of resources in a society we have called economics. Power relationships we have termed politics. The type of relationships humans had in the past we have called this history. What type of relationships one needs to understand to protect oneself has been called self defence. Within that broad discipline of self defence there are styles that concentrate on different types of relationships that we have so many styles.

When we understand that there are so many different martial arts, styles of self defence we understand the importance of the concept of referencing, so that we understand where something originally came from. All knowledge can be refenced, because it all came from somewhere. Even a great discovery can be referenced, it’s thoughts can be traced to the past, to some past relationships and the person who makes the discovery, especially concerning laws of existence, has been in a relationship with those facts.

Take for example the discovery of a new wonder pill. The discovery just did not happen from know where. There was reference made to past knowledge, otherwise it would be impossible. That marvelous quantum theory has to have referenced past knowledge; the discoverer must have had a relationship with this knowledge somehow. To come to a fact, one needs to have had relationships in the past that led to a conclusion.

When talking of disciplines, when considering relationships that deal with particles, we call this discipline quantum mechanics. When dealing with relationships related to the exploitation of resources and who should get the rewards this discipline has been called economics. Relationships dealing with power balance in society has been called politics. What kind of relationships did human beings have in the past, this discipline we have termed history. What relationships did we have with musical instruments, this discipline we call history of music. All studying different aspects of the same thing.

That every discipline is studying the same thing, but different energy loses to maintain different relationships is the reality. This makes it a necessity for a student to know this before they specialize, to at least know that everything is information and that what ever discipline they may choose in life, they are working with understanding that it is all different manifestation of information.

Understanding that everything is in a random relationship and that those relationships lead to a loss of freedom because of the energy needed to maintain them. Knowing this reality as one leaves high school will allow themselves to judge the world better, is randomness at work in society, is randomness at work in my professional discipline, what quality of energy is maintaining a relationship, a realistic view of the world over and above mere opinions, make the case for ones opinions stronger.

Accepting the reality that everything is in a relationship and the principles behind that reality allows one to compare things as they are not as one wishes. Take an atom, it has a nucleus and electrons around this nucleus so to say. Theoretically, some electrons can be in the nucleus, all of them at some point in time. But it is best to be simple at first, around the nucleus are the electrons.

Having this relationship, a question can be asked, given this relationship between electrons and the nucleus of an atom, what political system best exemplifies this in the organization of human society? One can answer whatever they like, communism, socialism, feudalism, neo liberalism, fascism, theocracy, imperialism, racism, liberty, slavery, African traditionalism, aristocracy, oligarchy, any answer one wishes. However, one must be able to justify that answer given the reality of an atom, the question is around the atom and what political system best exemplifies this in human organization.

To make a true comparison we must understand the relationships between the electron and the nucleus, as they really are. A picture offers a static view rather than a dynamic view and is not enough for one who does not comprehend the reality fully behind a picture. One has to understand the context behind the picture.

The reality, even the outdated “solar system” model of the relationship between electrons and the nucleus of an atom understood that the relationship has energy being constantly added and subtracted. The positions of the electron is never constant, with modern understanding of the structure of the atom electrons can be inside the location that is defined as the nucleus.

With enough energy electrons can be added or subtracted to the relationship, thus the number of electrons need not be constant given the reality of existence. With enough energy the nucleus itself can cease to exist as it is. All these factors around the atom must be considered, the best understanding we have of the relationships at play, it is not so ordered as a single illustration of a “solar model” of the atom would suggest.

With a single “solar system” illustration of the atom with no context, ones answer to what social system does the relationship between electrons and the nucleus of an atom best resemble. The simplest answer of course is on the lines that every electron knows its place and so too do the components of the nucleus, whatever one chooses the nucleus to represent. The idea of randomness has no play and the atom is indestructible merely because it exists, randomness has no effect om its existence. This is far from reality.

The position of the electrons is more random than merely circling a sun like nucleus. The position of the electrons is random in a specific area around the nucleus, idea of everything is constrained comes to play. This area not only surrounds the nucleus but includes the nucleus such that at times the electron can be inside the nucleus. It does not matter where it is as long as it is in a specific area around the nucleus such that a definitive relationship can be established.

An answer of comparing an atom to the organization of society must include the random position of the electron. If one’s answer excludes this factor it can not be a true reflection of the relationships inside an atom.

Not forgetting that in some instance’s electrons are added and subtracted all depending on the location and relationships around that location. At times neutrons and protons are lost. This is the reality.

The answer to the question what socio – economic system best resembles an atom? The idea of randomness must be everywhere in the answer, in the justification of one’s answer. When dealing with the socio economy every good and service is the result of the human mind determined by location. Every piece of knowledge anything that a human knows is from a human mind. Your parents potty trained you, reading a book is somebody’s mind passing knowledge they probably got from other people adding their own insights. All knowledge has a reference point, parents first teach you how to hold a spoon, with life you will adopt holding a spoon to your likes, but still there is the reference, your parents taught you how to use a spoon.

A system that acknowledges that randomness is an underlying principle of reality, knowledge must be influenced by the principles of randomness. An economies primary resource is the knowledge of that society and the applications of that knowledge, who produces a good or service is always random. Who will discover the next scientific principle is always random, even though odds are different according to location, not forgetting in that location there is also a general relationship of the culture towards knowledge.

That all disciplines are studying different manifestations of the same thing means that a discovery of a principle in any discipline adds to the knowledge base of society. This is just a reality, and in reality society prioritizes what type of knowledge it wants according to the culture of that society.

It is important to understand that the discipline of statistics can be applied in most if not every discipline or profession. Statistics informs us of the general behaviour of information. How many uppercuts a boxer threw in a fight is statistics. Watch a boxing match or an MMA fight, any sport, football, soccer, baseball, cricket, rugby, hockey, the commentator will be giving out statistics throughout the event. Statistics help us to better understand what is going on than merely watching the game.

When looking at the growth of a germ culture statistics are at play, to find the pattern, we understand everything is in a relationship because of the vital role statistics plays in quantum mechanics and quantum mechanics played the most significant role in us understanding that everything is in a relationship.

Stockbrokers need data that can only be analysed by using statistics, that is how one gets to a buy or sell recommendation.

That is how insurance companies come up with best ways to maximize profits They analyze data using statistics and they come up with best formulae for their executive board to get maximum rewards.

We know by understanding principles of radioactive that statistically how correct are we likely to be when we measure the date of something. We statistically know so much about carbon dating that we can with better accuracy guess the time period of flesh.

Political polls are nothing but the use of statistics. The accuracy of statistics depends on the complexity of the relationships that they are tallying.

Statistics can be applied in every discipline and profession because it is a tool that is used to tell us how information behaves and is behaving. Statistics helps to see patterns in the random. No matter how much one believes an event is predictable, it is random. Being a tool to for intelligence to analyze information, as all disciplines look at different manifestations of the same thing, information, it makes sense that a tool that informs us of the behaviour of information can be used in every discipline.

Understanding everything is about relationships simplifies things to what relationships things are in and what type of energy is being expanded to maintain those relationships. To know something just follow the relationships.

Before answering sensitive questions that determine the directions of entire societies within those boundaries, they must ask themselves the relationships involved, how has the idea of randomness been affected, you can never give an honest answer without considering relationships, often documents are available for one to make their decision over and above hear say. Understanding the reasons why the concepts of randomness have been tampered with, at worst due to taste, will allow one to appreciate their society as it is.

If the socio-economic landscape is not as random as one feels it should be, they can ask themselves who is gaining free food and ask themselves why? How they answer the why is somebody gaining food without being involved in the production process that would be their view of the world, how much they accept everything is in a relationship.

Never forgetting the second law of information, an information package will remain in its present state unless a relationship is established. Since everything is in a relationship the second law affects everything.

One will understand as they evolve even in school changing friendships, other relationships are established. As one matures more pertinent relationships occur over puppy friendship, food, quests, politics.

But one will understand that if one is in a choke hold, that is not a good relationship, they need to establish a new relationship, get out of the choke hold.

A historian understands how states, societies, kingdoms and empires have collapsed in the past, new relationships where added and eventually the society changed.

Relationships to be maintained need energy, thus new relationships also need energy to maintain them. The old relationships must first be broken up, and this takes energy, the energy must be greater than the energy holding the relationship together if that relationship is to be broken.

We see this in the smelting of ores, to get the metal out of the ore a tremendous amount of energy is needed but it happens, the metal is separated from the sludge by heat.

The first and second laws of information need to be known, because they precede the laws of Newton and are much simpler and encompass everything, including the laws of Newton and Einstein.

Bhekuzulu Khumalo

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